I remember whenever anybody asked me, what's your hobby? Among the list fell; making and meeting new friends! Up to date,I am excited to make new friends. One thing I know is I am very easy to to make friends with and also I'm very easy to fall out of friendship.
In highschool, I was popular. Not that I was incharge of anything, but all because of my easy going nature, a trait that hasn't dimmed through the years. But although I was a popular, of all the students, only a few knew me for me, some of whom we're still in contact.
How I was popular still challenges my mind. Maybe it's the fact that I kept my peace with everyone, which I still do.
But as Alan Jackson, one of the greatest country artist whose music has a way of quietly inspiring my life, sings;
“The older I get, the fewer friends I have, but you don't need much when the ones that you got always have your back…”
I get to understand, I can't keep all.
I have come to notice that whenever I meet new people, I fully charge them with a hundred percent pedestal. Then through their words and actions alignment, I watch them descend, and get to decide if I want them around.
Growing old is growing wiser, and by understanding human relations and knowing that we're diverse beings, I never rush to judge, or end a friendship. I have grown to give room for error. To retest if we still vibe, before calling quits.
Another thing I have developed lately, that has been helpful when it comes to friendship, is reading the energy.
Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve learned to pay attention to how energy is exchanged. Like, I can sense when something is off. One thing I know is, energy never lies; it amplifies someone’s true character. And no way can someone fake their energy for long before they get exhausted.
How I read it is still a mystery to myself. I just know that when an energy or aura isn't inviting to my energy, that is a no go zone for me, and especially after a confirmation by following up on whether or not they're okay.
A friendship is not a job interview but it's the high time to decide who I connect with on this path called life.
If a person or friend or acquittance fits the phrase saying, "a friend in need is a friend indeed," then they're definitely for keeps. They're the rare gems I want to involve with, friends that build each other rather than demolish. Friends that have my back the same way I have theirs.
Friends with the purest intentions. The world is a scary place to entangle oneself with people who only put their interest first and care less about others. Those are not the people I want for friends.
But, even with my standards, above all, I leave it to my intuition as my final judge, a strength I have learned to lean on. A compass I can entirely rely on.
Thank you for reading ❤️! Images used are mine.
