The inner bond that slowly emerges from a relationship that is initially without direction happens a lot. But, for some people, commitment is an important thing that must be discussed at the beginning of their relationship. So, where better, commit from the beginning of the relationship or let it grow on its own over time?

"Actually, the right time to really commit it depends on the readiness of each person. At the beginning or in the middle of the process of getting to know each other no problem. But, if the commitment is equated with starting a special relationship, it's not right. More commitment to more serious relationships. Like a foundation, commitment determines the direction of the relationship, "said Fani, a graduate student in Psychology, UGM.

A friend claims he is committed to a serious relationship with his girlfriend. But, when asked what was done while committed, he himself could not answer with the reason of letting everything flow. Then, what is the function of the commitment for him? Is it really just a way to tie each other on the pretext of having a serious relationship?

Another with my little friend. Since the beginning of a relationship with the boyfriend, he only committed to "go together". While there is never a limit to how to behave with friends. As a result, with whom he or his girlfriend walked, it never became a problem. Until each of them is free to have fun with anyone but remain committed to the initial status, dating. What does commitment mean to themselves? Have a special relationship but still legitimate having fun with what other people are included in the "agreement" they make?

The commitment finally became a victim. Instead of being used as a mature foundation, he instead becomes a cliché of a relationship. In fact, the certifier of things is not fair, so it seems natural. But back again, each has views and interests. Whatever the form, the commitment is still credited in the relationship because it is effective to bind the mind with the unwritten "agreement" that is the unifying of each pair. So, for yourself, what is the meaning of commitment?