I think you are doing well in telling her story, and it also seems to me that you have brought up some important points that I can agree with. But I'm sorry, I can't give your post the answer it deserves, I tried to write a longer comment but it's a problem because the internet goes back and forth all the time, and I take a little help from online translators to make sure I don't make any mistakes. I'd like to share my stories, or my family's story (what I know of it), but I don't have the same desire to share that around here as you do. Maybe for me it's not the right place.

I will re-read your post tomorrow and address the other points you mention (if I think my opinion is needed).

Good post. Cheers!