The First Experience of Independence Will Make You Want to Run Back Home
I believe many adults will attest to the fact that the very first moment of attempting to be independent, especially when you are met with lots of challenges, you'll definitely have this feeling of wanting to go back home to live with your parents or guardian.
I am not too sure but I think it happens more often in most African homes where young people are always in haste to leave home and stay independently on their own. This thing happens especially when the child feels he's been humiliated and denied some kind of freedom he needs. At this point, he would start making money so he could get his own apartment. Moreover, if the money isn't coming in as fast as expected, he will leave the house to stay with a friend. This is prevalent in both boys and girls. For the young girls, most of them will run out of the house to live with their lovers. Especially the teenage girls.
Being independent is Golden but there are prices you have to pay to enjoy some of the privileges that come with it. For some families, as soon as a person leaves the family house to stay on their own, they cease to take care of such a person. The person is then responsible for everything concerning himself or herself.
As a girl growing up in the village with my parents. I didn't really have the urge to leave and stay on my own as few young girls of my age attempted. Meanwhile, I came from a strict Christian home, hence you dare not attempt to leave the house. Moreover, it's a rare thing for a female child to leave her parents' house for an independent life. Mostly, you are to live there till marriage.
However, I was lucky to gain admission into the university, and that marked the beginning of independence. I left home for another state for school, and for the period of four years, I was taken care of by my parents. After my course, I left for national service in another state. At the end of the national service, I began my life as an adult, taking full responsibility and not having to depend on anyone. Most of the time when challenges came to swallow me up, and I felt like running back home to my parents, I'd just remember that things weren't too fine at home, so instead of returning home to add to their challenges, I felt it was better to face my challenges.
Adulthood and independence are sweeter when you're able to find your feet. Having what to do that brings in money. In fact, the real independence in adulthood is financial because everything falls back to finances. Without finances, your adulthood will be full of regrets and challenges and you might run back home.
However, the truth is that if one can hold onto those challenges and trust that things will work out, then in the meantime, things will truly work out.
