I had attended a teenage camp sometime in 2014, and though I learnt a lot, I came back flat out disappointed, sad and swag less. Yes o swag less . I didn't socialize, didn't make any friends, didn't have fun. It did hurt so much because while everyone seemed to get along well all I did was feel left out the whole time. Chaii it pains me o.. Even guys didn't approach me.. I come dey wonder "am I not a fine girl? "
I was still mulling over my pain when I came across a book that told me that I was the problem. I sat back and expected the world to single me out.. .. Thinking about it, now, I only laugh. I learnt that I was an introvert and if I didn't make an effort to be friendly, I'd continue mulling for the rest of my life.
I had to find a solution. That's how this book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie became my manual.. I'd tell you now that starting conversations with strangers happens quite easily these days.
Oh except that I've been stuck at home due to brother COVID-19 I'd have more friends .
This explains one reason why I had to be intentional about growing and developing myself.
So many times, when we get to meet people, we ask questions to get to know them, when we are barely aware of ourselves
We all owe ourselves the responsibility to learn more about our strengths and weaknesses, our likes and dislikes because our relationships with people mirrors how we see ourselves and how we understand other humans as well.
I believe that relationships have to be worked out and that we should be intentional about developing ourselves as individuals because this helps us attract the right people and enjoy good relationships.
It is important to know that The process of growth is guided by principles. It doesn't happen on the first day of your life neither does it happen after a thousand years.
Unlike animals and organisms that grow biologically and passively, growth for humans is an art of becoming..it is never passive but an active process that indulges the mind and spirit of a man.(I think I use the word "art" a lot).
Principles are natural laws created by God to govern the earth and everything that happens within principles never ever fail.
So for this reason, I urge you to seek out principles that are necessary to the progress of your being in every stage and aspect of life. This will guarantee your success in your life, business and relationships.
Every relationship needs a guide and without it, most relationships including that with the opposite sex will be abused.