As a woman, your husband's name should not be your only source of relevance.
Don't live your whole life for marriage. You should have goals to achieve. Fulfill your purpose in life.
You're a woman by gender first before becoming a wife. Marriage should be an avenue for goals and purpose to be achieved. Marriage should not hinder growth and purpose in life.
The weight and responsibilities of being married can actually shift your priorities if you're not careful.
Ultimately, a supportive partner is a driving force to achieve this.