I do agree with you on the most part. Not that it’s ever really good to be aggressive as that comes from a place of defence but I do think it’s only going to get results when the other person wants, at least on some level to evolve or fix the relationship. I hAve definitely seen many times how you can have a chat and not judge someone and they tell you really intense stuff they have never told anyone else, you can fix issues too but I’ve defo myself at least had a couple of experiences where I did this kind of thing and shared how I was feeling and the person actually used it against me and then focused entirely on how I’m damaged due to what I told them and took absolutely zero ownership etc they infact used my expression to actually take more power and dominance. That can be even More intense when it’s a group. Thats probably when a person is so in defence mode and cannot even let a chip of feeling enter in, probably because they would break down. I do think it works rly well tho when the other person has at least some small desire to evolve or they do want to fix the situation and find peace. It probably will always help you avoid arguments too but only if you can probably remove yourself from the situation if they person makes no attempt to meet you halfway.

I guess my question is what if someone is invading your country and you practise nvc and they completely ignore you and laugh at you being weak and continue to invade. What does one do? That’s a genuine question actually. I’m anti war and do think we can fix that within but I guess it kind of takes everyone doing that. Using this method would you just let them completely invade you? Or would you eventually place up a boundary? Genuinely asking actually rather than having a point, I’m intrigued on your take.

I mean I am still 100 percent glad I made that post I felt and still feel such relief to have aired things that I experienced that i had been afraid to say. I think it helped a few other people who had been in the same situation and also been too afraid to speak out. I do agree my language could have been better and less defensive but I do think sometimes it’s good to acknowledge things. I actually felt quite free after tbh. Altho I don’t obviously like arguing I just felt i took back my power and wasn’t sat afraid anymore just because a group of people with power could take away a few dollars and actually just felt a big switch off any attachment to the platform. It actually inspired me to go and focus more on nft platforms, I’ve spent a couple of days now researching nfts and finding some communities who are all really supportive and even sold one immediately. There doesn’t seem to be any of this politics if you scroll through their chat feeds. Probably cause everyone’s focused on something, like making and selling art and improving their craft. I feel overall it has created a huge positive shift. Maybe that process was a bit wobbly tho I’ll admit that but somehow it all felt necessary. Without that whole argument I don’t think I would have had nft back in my awareness and found my next passion to jump into like that. So I do rly wonder if maybe everything is for a reason on a higher level. Maybe those guys needed that interaction and so did I.

I did really like the videos tho and it’s a good reminder for interactions. I watched the long audience one and will defo watch some more x