Just watched the long one. It was really good it is actually what I do with my romantic connection and probably why finally have such a harmonious one where no one wants control the other and we completely accept each other as we are and do the inner work, rather than project. I guess it's much easier because we are both aware and do our own work and are really able to discuss all topics from an open place, where neither of us get triggered. That did take 10 years to get to that point tho of solid work with other connections, I probably don't put the same effort in into other areas, when I deem the other person is bound to come at me aggressively or if i express my feelings come at me aggressively and almost use that as a weakness but for sure there is never an excuse to attack, it always comes from being defensive and trying to protect yourself.

Most of the people in the video talk about family and relationships, where you would at least hope under all the battles both people do actually want to connect and make the relationship work. Out in the wild west you have ppl that rly don't give a shit, you also get this in relationships too and i guess thats when ppl need to keep working on themselves and move away. I do think sometimes it's powerful for them to own their past, what happened then take responsibility for attracting better. I honestly think his methods are amazing but I do still think this works the best in situations where both parties do actually want to fix the relationship and only the misunderstanding is in the way.