i am around 50 years of age. my childhood was in africa and i grew up in an asian country. i know around 8 languages.i have interacted the most rural as well as the elite class.in short, i think i have seen life very closely and am sure that others can benefit from my experience.
there is a very thin line between excellence and disaster. one doesnt have to be smart or shrewd to hit the top.infact wisdom is benefiting from others experiences.we have mixed love with pleasure. eg one gets pleasure from food,sex,travelling, hobbies etc etc. but pleasure is a common experience for almost all humans.however to love and be loved requires some some basic qualities. i wish to highlight them here.
SACRIFICE.
old or new, the history of mankind revolves around some characters which might have existed long but are evergreen in our memories because of some sacrifices they made. i think the following image will make it clear of what i mean... and they say that a picture is worth a thousand words.......
HONESTY
If we look closely at the human history, we will find the prophets to be the most loved people. All prophets and community leaders had many qualities- but one quality which was common in all was that they were all honest. A common saying will prove what i want to say-" Honesty is the best policy".
COMPROMISE
To be honest, humans are not machines. that is to say that, humans cant be flawless. even machines are not 100 percent. thus give latitude. one should try to over look the flaws of others. being a critic is very easy- but to go along someones lesser side and help in getting better is real difficult. I can remember a few people in my life who were always there when i needed them- despite the fact that they knew so many bad things about me.
BE AT THE GIVING END
In my opinion the greatest short cut to being loved is this quality of being at the giving end and not receiving end. 9n other words one must not expect anything from others and yet must be WILLING to give ones best to others.
CONSISTENCY
Life and relations are not about "touch and go" infact like the wise men said- love me little but love me for ever" one must be prepared to go all the way,, the result will be that there might come ups and downs but the consistent will make to the end--- however the in-consistent will keep changing and never be able to find love.
