first of all it has nothing to do with people's ethnicity people who are shit come in all shape and colours - as for vaccinations , some are needed i don't do well with them either but my kids had no problems. so try not to worry too much. Also kids what their parent no matter their state as long as love is there . No kid is better off without a loving parent - my mother was a clinical narcissist so i would have been better without her but you love your kids that is a totally different duck. I hope things get bette for you life can be a bitch sometime, trust me i know.