How old are they ? And racist how ? What happened? I mean I know there is a large alt right wing here but that is sadly the price of free speech. U.S . America is sadly horribly racist throughout. I grew up in Europe and It hits me in the face all the time , while others who grow up here never even notice how bad it is. As for community support expecting anything from humans is a recipe for heart break. I expect nothing and like that the few good eggs surprise me positively.

As for issues with family I have had my fair share and an ex who tried to kill me. This shit hurts but you also have to keep going one step at a time and some days a second at a time. Do you know where your kids are? If no you should put your DNA in my heritage and 23 and me because maybe one day your boys might go looking for you and find you that way.