So when alot of people talk about 50/50 in relationships I wonder what they mean and I think one has to define the areas , is it financially, physically, mentally, emotionally,?
Well I do believe that when some people talk about this thing they go to the financial part, so I am not going to talk about that side, but would then focus on the other part of being in a relationship, so emotionally being in a relationship requires you both to put in your all, because I seriously don't understand the need of 50/50, if you claim that that relationship is what makes you happy, that it keeps you sane, why are you now giving 50%? Me I seriously don't get it.
For me, relationships are not mathematics, It is not like you are measuring rice inside a cup and saying that this one is your portion and this one is my portion, human emotions do not work that way, some days one person will be stronger, some days the other person will carry more weight, that is just life,so trying to reduce everything to 50/50 sometimes feels like we are removing the humanity from the whole relationships matter.
So my take here is that we already know that nothing lasts forever, but your effort to keep the relationship or whatever going is the real deal, so far it is not toxic for either of you, see genuine effort is what shows commitment, effort is what shows love, 3ffort is what makes someone feel secure with you, and effort cannot always be measured equally, noooo it can't.
So see, if I claim that I am happy with a relationship, then what is my 50% doing and not my 100%..... se ehn this part always just confuse me,because when you do genuinely care about someone, you naturally want to give all your best, and not because you are being forced to, but because you want the relationship to grow and be healthy too, so it is not about keeping scores or now calculating who did more yesterday or whatever.
And same with the financial aspect too , if I have the ability to support my relationship to be an envious one, so why not and if my partner is doing same, why can't I tooo? Relationships are partnerships, not competitions, If today I can do more, I will definitely do more, if tomorrow you can do more, you too do more, seriously the goal should be progress together, not equality by force.
Another thing is emotional support,Sometimes your partner might be going through something heavy mentally, maybe work stress, family issues, or personal struggles, In that moment, expecting 50/50 emotional contribution is unrealistic, you might need to give 70 or even 80 at that time, then another period will now come when you are the one needing more support yourself, that balance can shift naturally over time.
At the end of the day see it just depends on how we individuals reason these things, some people sees relationships as a kind of transactions, and while others see them as a connections, I personally believe relationships should be about showing up fully, loving intentionally, and supporting each other without constantly counting percentages.
What matters most is not whether it is 50/50 or 100/100, what matters is that the both people are willing to go together, you both people are trying, and also both people genuinely care about each others well being, and once that foundation exists, the numbers stop mattering.
Because you see love... when in its real form, it is not measured in halves, It is experienced in wholes.
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