One thing I have tried not to do is compare myself to others, I have seen how it can really hurt someone, comparison starts very small, at first you just look at what someone else has achieved and then you start questioning your life and wondering why it doesn't look the same, I have been there before and honestly I regretted it.
There was a time I compared myself to a friend, from the outside, her life really looked so perfect like she always seemed happy, she always had nice things and It looked like her life was going exactly as she wanted it to, I remember thinking, "
Why isn't my life like this?
And without realizing it, I started feeling like I was not doing enough, I began to question my achievements just because they did not look like hers, then later I found out that her life was not as perfect as it seemed, she was struggling with alot of things that nobody knew about, and she only showed the side of her life she wanted people to see
And that experience taught me a lesson, and that is social media and real life don't always tell the story, people usually show us what they want others to see only, they hide their struggles and difficult moments.
Since then I have learned not to compare myself to others, Everybody has a journey and different timing, What happens to someone today doesn't mean it has to happen to me today.
Life is not a competition, It is a journey that everyone walks at their pace, I don't think comparison is always bad, there is a type of comparison that can motivate you, for example seeing someone achieve something you want can encourage you to work, It can remind you that your goals are possible if you stay consistent, the problem starts when comparison makes you feel less than someone or makes you forget what you have already achieved.
That kind of comparison steals your peace and confidence, before you know it you are chasing someone Life instead of building your own.
These days I focus on myself, i celebrate people when they achieve something, i also remind myself that my time will come one day, i don't know what battles people are fighting behind doors so I refuse to envy what I only see on the surface.
Everyone story is different and Mine is different too.
Instead of comparing myself to others I compare myself to who I was yesterday. As long as I am growing, learning and becoming better than I used to be that is enough, for me.
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