There are a lot of aspects and factors about succeeding in life, archiving happiness, creating luck, finding love and so on. And most likely only one skill is not enough. But, from all the skills and qualities a person must have, probably there are few that are top, basic and most required. The market rules, it puts value (and price) to the active people and if for some unknown reason somebody fails, he gets elected but hacks the society, he gets elected.
The quality that I consider the most important is Self-Confidence. And it seems like it doesn't matter if it is covered with actual true content. The person that is Self-Confident is mostly pushy, entrepreneurial, extrovert, noisy, center of the attention, with sense of humor, he can act a persona if necessary. And he knows that there is no bad commercial. Everything could be turned in favor if played well.
The roles and the circus acts are important for entering into the heads and into the mouths of the people. But to act with confidence that has value is harder to archive. A leader must know when to be hard as rock and he knows in what moments to act diplomatically and to win sympathy, followers and support.
In business these people are sellers - they sell themselves, their ideas, their products. They know marketing, psychology (which is the core of the marketing), they experiment with different ways of handling the problems they face in the world. They know what currency is more valuable than money - This is the attention.
When you have toward yourself the attention of enough critical mass of people, then appear some that are willing to give money to you for the thing you are doing. From the other side of the "wall", some people are willing to work for you because of your persona, your ego, and some are willing to work for the money. So you become man in the middle for those that give money and those that get.
And this stuff is boxed in a package so it could be presented to the matrix, to the establishment - name, building, numbers, reports - what goes in and what goes out. Abstractions that mask the spinning of the wheel. But a man (especially philosophical) could potentially realize that the only real thing is the act that is being done. Not that anybody gives a damn about it.
The matrix that we live in is mostly not moved by the good, it is not good by what is right, what is correct, what is beneficial and makes sense. It is moved by the finance. A lot of people find place in the middle of the money givers and the money receivers - that do the work for the money givers.
They do that, because they have realized the most valuable resource even beyond the finance, even beyond the attention of the crowd. Money could be archived in a lot of ways, attention too, but the time that is spend for some activity is never coming back.
The Self-Confidence is a quality that is liked by both sexes in the other. Nobody that is normal doesn't want to have by his side a depressed, sad, pulling back - mentally, physically, financially - personality. This quality is searched in the beginning as an entry point because the truth is that a normal person rarely changes. Big changes of a person's personality could potentially happen after some event, something ground-shaking, like meeting the Death for example. In normal cases and conditions, most of the time everybody moves on the well known path and changes after being pushed by the necessity, not by personal wish or enthusiasm.
The person that doesn't have value to show for his Self-Confidence very often is accompanied by self-love. Self-love is something essential in all cases for the happiness of everybody. The market, the society, the opposite sex and the matrix, if it is grown enough, places these kind of people in their places until they change. But I ask myself - how often that happens. It is required a person with high quality values to recognize and see beyond the burning emotions, beyond the abstract boxes of the mind, to recognize what is truly valuable in the other person. And such a person could do it even if the other is not self-confident...
