The past does not define the future in any way, though this is a hard truth for people to believe and for people who believe it, it is an empowering one. If your twenties feel like a lot of missteps have been made, bad relationship, bad life, financial mistake here and there, stalled career and lost direction, that doesn't mean that it's over for you. It means that you are standing at the most powerful point at any comeback in life and you have now a better decision, more experience to rebuild your life from scratch again and again.
The past has a lot of lessons to teach. Rebuilding isn't a tidy restart button, it is messy, it is slow and deeply personal. Start with refusal to play the victim and a commitment to deliberate action.
That refusal might look like two things, honesty and discipline. First, you must be honest to yourself and to everybody that is all around you. Honesty to yourself will go a long way.
It is not to punish you when you are honest to others. Second, you must build small reputable habits that move you forward at every point in time. While you have big gestures that might be good, the ones that you portray on social media and the like, resilience is built on many of these tiny consistent habits that over time become something that is so great and so indispensable.
When you say no to impulsive choices, showing up to work and to relationships with integrity, there is a lot that goes with it. If you reframe failure as if it were, you will surely do better. Every setback contains a lot of information and data that can help you make a better decision right ahead.
When you use these lessons as a blueprint, when you are reckless, you must deliberate. When you are chasing the start of school, you must pursue a meaning and there are also ways that you can rebuild yourself as a person. The first one is to hold it to your life.
Take a one-week inventory, money, health relationship, time, identity and the like. Take some time to improve and fix them. Make some micro goals, a small goals here and there, the one that you can do in 20 days, 30 days, 60 days, a quarter of a year and the likes.
They will surely help you break the goals down to make it easy. That's the number two. Number three is protect your time.
Don't let anybody barge into your time frame with unnecessary stuff. Let them know that they are infringing on your privacy and you need some time to build and rebuild your life as a person. If there's any high interest debt paid, build an emergency buffer all around.
Start to work on small investments that compounds wins as time goes on. Then the next one is to reinvent your health. Sleep deeper and take exercise seriously.
Find mentorship and accountability partner to be accountable to all through this process. It will help you. Stop blaming yourself and telling yourself that you ruined your 30s or you didn't learn fast.
Now is your time to rebuild again.
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