So I have to rely on my judgement in the moment, if I happen to recognise the conditions accurately enough to even have something to apply to them. And that is a big if. So, if there was an early warning system that I could set to at least recognise the condition, and give me a short range of possible options, life would be much easier. If it could also stop me from saying most of what I say before I say it to my wife, that would be highly appreciated too.

Being patient and not rushing can be a solution to this. This also makes the person have a more mature character. I don't know if maturity and experience are considered the same thing, but maturity is essential for wisdom.