These days, it would appear that there is always someone somewhere who needs something or another that they cannot manage to do themselves. As much as this is true at times, there are also occasions when assisting becomes very hard to accomplish.
We look at individuals as helpless victims of circumstances beyond their control, but we do nothing to help them even when we are capable of helping them. What if there was something that could be done to change the circumstances? What are those things which are keeping us from doing something to help someone in distress? You can say that you are different, but there are some reasons I have seen why most of us do nothing to assist others even when we can.
One of the things that keep us distant from assisting people is fear. What if my effort is not sufficient to fulfill their expectations? or we are found to be incompetent in ourselves? What if we let them down?
This will likely be the biggest hurdle to helping others. It is hard to help someone when we worry that we won't be sufficient. We don't want to seem silly in front of everyone. We don't think we can help them. We don't want to fail.
Things that we fear could very well exist, but most times it is illogical. You can't ever be sure exactly what you can or cannot do. In failing to do something for someone else, you're depriving yourself of the joyt of having the ability to do something no one else can.
We can overcome this fear by voluntarily assisting people on a daily basis. When we are able to live life without fear, then we will realize that we can do anything. With time, we will not be afraid to assist other people and we will not fear donating our time to other people.
The second thing that comes to your mind when you think why we can't assist others is greed of time.
We humans find it difficult to provide our time because we feel that we will be wasting our time. We feel that we will be wasting our time by providing our time to someone, whereas in actual fact, we are wasting our time by not providing our time.
We can overcome the problem by being cautious of the way we go about helping other individuals with issues that they cannot undertake themselves. We need to consider that we are not experts, but we can give our time and skill to other individuals in trying to help them in any way that we possibly can.
It is worth doing something every day for someone else. It will not be as difficult as you think, because you can always give your time to someone. We should also ask ourselves why we are afraid of giving our time.
When thinking of helping others, most of us are too self-centered with our time. Our ego convinces us that helping others makes us lower in status. We also may be convinced that we need to earn our time, which causes us to ask ourselves why we need to help others at all.
Pride and ego are likely the most difficult things that individuals have to deal with when helping someone else. We must examine our pride and ego first before we can volunteer some time for somebody.
We must start with our attitude, belief, and feelings before we can step out of our comfort zone and reach out to help others. Through understanding how we feel, what we feel, and our attitude, we become more attuned to the way that our behavior affects others.
Scarcity mentality individuals do not like to provide money or time to others since they expect there will be little left for themselves to satisfy their own needs.
This is a difficult problem to crack, because we are most of the time afraid to help in this way. We are afraid that others will take advantage of us. This is probably because of what happens to us when we have tried to help others, and they end up taking advantage of us.
These fears may deter people from keeping away from helping others in the first place. But it is never too late to change, so we should be ready to accept the fact that helping others will never make us lose anything, and it is always more blessed to give than to receive.
All of us know that doing good to others is the moral right thing. But first we should realize that we are the worst opponents we have; if we are looking at all the barriers we have, we should also start thinking about the way we respond to those barriers of others.
As soon as we take a good look at our values, beliefs, attitudes, and motivations we can develop alternative behavior around being more kind and generous to others. We also have to remember to be thankful for our already-existing resources so we do not get greedy.
When we think more introspectively on the value of the time we spend in giving to others, we can start to see all the ways we can serve others. This not only will give us a healthier and happier community but it will also lead to much greater accomplishment for us.
