One day you get tired of yourself. From the faded landscape of your dark room, to being your own jailer. Yes, the most cruel prisons weave their grids in the engineering of canned ideas, preconceptions or cowardice imposed by alien and ancestral fears, or by someone. The time has come to prove the wings that were always yours and never used. Then you launch into an absurd flight in the colorful depths and illuminated heights of an unknown and fantastic universe that unfolds in the measure of your lightness, courage and daring. This is what happens when the protagonism of one's own life is assumed. Power, magic and charm are yours, bring them back!
Sometimes we are prisoners of concepts that were imposed on us and simply accepted by fear or comfort; other times we are subjugated by people and, for some reason, we can not rebel against the allowed domination. People have only the power you grant them. To understand this simple concept is to look strong in the mirror of life.
The decision to be emotionally independent, to manifest oneself according to one's own truth, is essential in the wonderful path of freedom. To abdicate full consciousness is to transfer to the other the essence of life. When we give up living the best in us, we deny the world something odd, for there are no two beings alike. You are unique and therein lies all your beauty.
To accept that some people have power over others as normal behavior is to believe that some were born just to satisfy and serve others. Medieval concepts that history tried to eradicate by being totally absurd. However, the desire for domination still manifests itself through atavism, ignorance or bad faith, causing many to curb their tacit existence as a kind of contemporary slavery, whether in the affective or social realm.
Fear is at the root of that castrating behavior that leads one person to annul before another or even before all. The silent fear that if I expose my truth I am going to end my marriage or relationship, be fired or discriminated against at work, lose my friend or be away from a certain group, ends up with any possibility of being full. It's like trying to be happy being just half of who we are.
Everyone wants to be accepted, loved and admired. However, they forget that deep down no one reveres the weak. In the best of hypotheses he arouses feelings of mercy and compassion. At worst, contempt and irony. No one remembers the name of the extra in the movie; history does not mention cowards.
Threats of rejection, dismissal or moral debts concealed, and never payable, are some of the tricks of modern slaveowners. His efficient and deaf whips. Do you know anyone like that? If formerly the force of the law demanded such submission, today we have the slaves who can not be freed from the emotional shackles that bind them to the absurd desires of others. And, of course, they are unhappy. All, victims and perpetrators, without exception. Dictators, in any scale or size, are tormented subjects.
However, freedom is not concession, it is conquest. It is not asked, it is imposed. Only you can sign your own independence. If you speak and act according to your truth, you will cause the other to ask for a divorce, to fire you, never to be with you again; screaming, kicking or pouting, the better. Sign that this relationship was based on domination, lying, abuse and pain. Surely what you are leaving behind you will not need, because better times and companies will present themselves. Nothing good can be maintained in the bondage of will. Let go of what no longer serves you. Only then can the new and brighter appear.
If you manage to establish a new concept of relationship based on respect and dignity will be perfect. If it is over, it is because you rebelled against the domain; it means that that relationship was broken and the end came at a good time.
No one belongs to anyone. Your life is personal and non-transferable. Do not give it to anyone, but do not forget to share your joys and achievements with the world.
Ask yourself if the other has the right to establish yourself as owner of your will and truth. Do not be afraid to make your own decisions, they are powerful tools to navigate through life. It is through your choices that you trace your path in the world, write your story and exercise your spirituality. Soon your decisions will be sacred. Honor them as a deity!