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Humans as social beings are meant to exist by interacting with fellow humans. This means that, basically, we can not do without each other. Unlike unicellular organisms that can exist all by themselves and survive, we must in fact cohabit with ourselves and other inhabitants of the planet earth at least. In the same vein, emotions are one key thing we possess and it does not only refer to bad adjectives or whatever. To feel happy, nostalgic or terrific also implies emotions.
However, in our day-to-day living, we cannot all be on the same page no matter how we try. Now, this is where true patience and understanding come in, in order to successfully manage any situation.
In a case of conflict - or agreement, a compromise has to be reached to ultimately finalise the scenario that had previously ensued. Usually, one or both parties have to apologise to the other. And this is not as easy as it sounds. It is like it takes a whole kind of balls to do that at times. It is regarded as a general rule of thumb to seek peace with whomever you did wrong, but the definition of wrong differs from person to person. This is why some people have a habit of being quick to say "I鈥檓 sorry" while the rest may never see anything wrong that will prompt them to say that. I would refer to myself as one who operates in the middle of the two sets of people, it depends on how the spirit leads. But the spirit leads right most of the time, don鈥檛 fret!
Once, I had a friend back in the days when I attended a tutorial in preparation for entrance examinations into the university. I had actually known him back in my early secondary school days but we lost touch after his family relocated to a far area. So, our meeting at the tutorial centre was more like a reunion of our friendship. Largely, we had many things in common - especially the fact that he loves maths as I do. And we spent about 6 months cumulatively at the centre which entailed us doing many things together. Moving forward, after our exams and all, we lost touch. Again!
Miraculously, a call came in one day on my dad鈥檚 phone, it was my long-gone friend. At first, I was happy but I managed to hide it and spoke to him like those buried feelings were in control. After I had ranted as much as I wanted to, he told me his side of the story. It happened that his family鈥檚 house had been burgled. Even though I was embarrassed due to how I had reacted, I still stood my ground that he could have still found a way to pull at least an SMS through.
Well, as guys we just went on from where we stopped but I still had not done due justice. But I managed to pull it off - I apologised when we both got admission into our respective universities. I successfully utilised the joy at the moment and it worked!
One thing I have learned from this and as time went on is to never delay an apology. Do it while it is still smoking. We never can tell where the next things may take us to.
