Half way through the summer and this might be the last warm day - With warm being 24°C only. To make the most of it, we have come by the nearby lake beach to swim and relax a little.
Smallsteps is reading Fantastic Mr Fox, by Ronald Dahl.
This week has been pretty chilled, and while I have exercises and done things, I haven't been to the actual gym once. I will go tomorrow and Sunday, but tonight I am planning on making some dirty mojitos (dark rum) with mint from our garden.
Haven't had a mojito in years.
I will make an alcohol-free one for Smallsteps, so she can join in the fun. We aren't big drinkers, but I still want to ensure that Smallsteps has a model that promoted both healthy drinking in moderation, and takes away the "special occasion" of drinking. It isn't special, it isn't something to celebrate, it is just a thing that can be done from time to time.u
From my observations and experience, the people who end up having the worst relationship with alcohol are those who have been conditioned to it being something special, something that needs to be done on special occasions. They seem to always find a special occasion to celebrate, or to numb their pain.
A lot of Finns have drinking issues and it has largely been driven by levels of prohibition and access, and a culture of repressing, rather than processing, feelings. There is a big difference, even if outwardly it looks the same to a casual observer. Not being reactive to every emotion is not the same as burying the emotion to pretend nothing is felt.
One leads to balance, the other to breakage.
I struggle with it these days, because after the stroke, everything changed. My entire personality profile was up-ended and I had to learn a lot again. Except, I didn't have access to all the tools I had prior and had no new ones.
Five years later, it is still a daily struggle.
But as the pathetic saying goes, it is what it is. Nothing is going to change to make it better, no one is coming to save me, few of any are going to even help. This is just the way it goes these days, and perhaps it always was this way.
But for today, the sun is shining and there might be a mojito to end the evening.
Taraz
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