This terror can act like an anchor of sorts in our adult years that prevents us from realizing who we are outside of our "upbringing bubble". Imagine living your whole life for someone else but trying to fool yourself that you're living for yourself, it quite never works from an inner standpoint, something is missing, like a key puzzle of realization. On the outside, we sometimes blame it on the universe working against us when everything doesn't seem to work out our perceived way of doing it.