If you find that you're typically putting others needs above your own, then it's time to make yourself a priority. You're just an option to them and it's ok if you say "NO", they will be okay and you will be a lot more fulfilled. The above behavior is called people pleasing. People pleasing is a survival skill used by people who learned as children that they had to do what their parents said in order to be accepted. People pleasing is the fear of saying no to someone due to childhood where saying no meant we could lose love and acceptance from our caregivers or worse. Being accepted by our caregivers is a basic survival skill because children can't live on their own or take care of themselves for many years. So these children become adults who have a hard time saying no and making boundaries to protect themselves. ( Ps: this behavior can also be developed in later stages) .You could have the best intentions and be the kindest, funniest human and someone can still not like you. An essential skill must be developed to be ok with not being liked. You have to accept this as a normal part of being human and not as an indication of your worth. Learning to be okay with being disliked becomes a valuable skill in order to hold on to ourselves in a world that convinced us that our worth is determined by so many things outside of us. You won't always be a priority to others, and that's why you have to be a priority to yourself. Learn to respect yourself, take care of yourself, and become your own support system. Your needs matter. Start meeting them. Don't wait for others to choose you. "It's time to choose yourself "❤
