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There’s a fine art to showing anger in the workplace.
Too much can get you fired.
Not enough can lead to stalemate solutions—and more anger if the issues continue.

Anger is a hard emotion to control and perhaps that’s why most of us try to avoid it entirely at work.

But being pissed off in the office is an inevitable reality.
We are only human, after all.
It’s simply a matter of time before a beloved coworker crosses your anger threshold. Instead of bottling up your hostility and willing it not to explode, learn how to restrain your emotions, direct your passion, and use anger as a catalyst for change.

First OF;

you need to cool back down. Take time to get into the right mindset for a productive (not explosive) conversation.

Misery needs company:

Talk with someone you trust and ask them to process the situation with you. By telling them your story, this person can be a sounding board and help identify any missing pieces of information.
Look for someone who is neutral to the situation—otherwise you might be adding extra bodies to the anger mob.

Get moving:

Like to throw your desk chair through a window?
Yeah that is the adrenaline talking ;) .
Break down excess adrenaline by getting more oxygen into your system—go for a brisk walk, hit the gym, or lock yourself in a conference room for a dance party of one

Write it all on down (digital or paper): Include all of the relevant details including your points, their points, and any misunderstanding you think took place.
##Steady yourself with counterpoints from both sides.

Decide on your end goal:

If you do nothing else before approaching your inciter, do this one thing. Define your objective in a way that anyone can understand. Is it to resolve the situation?

DA conversation..^^

Ready yourself for the hardest part:
Keep your temper down and focus on the goal. We are not robots, so it’s OK if things get a little messy. But, you need to stay calm and be respectful. If you find yourself getting heated, chances are you’re only looking at the issue through your own perspective

“I am upset”: Using “I statements” can ensure you have a productive conversation instead of a blame game. For example, saying, “I felt hurt when you raised your voice at me in our meeting,” goes further than, “YOU have yelled at me for the last time, you giant idiot.”

Use active listening:

When you’re talking, you can’t listen, and you might miss something important.
A few simple changes in how you communicate can improve your understanding

Look for a solution—either for now or later: Stick to your objectives and refer to your list if the conversation goes off topic. Focus the discussion on a solution rather than who’s at fault.If you notice that the conversation is going in circles, it’s OK to table the discussion for later. Especially if you’re getting angry again.

Finish strong

If you reached a solution, congratulations! After a few days, feel free to confirm the improvements you two discussed via email or in person.
If there is no resolution, that’s fine too (for now). Thank the person for their time and perspective, admit you are at an impasse and cut the conversation off..