Hope we are all good? And what a sensitive topic from #hivelesrnerd first prompt of this week, parenting and what method is the best to discipline a child 👧. This is a topic with many having different views , opinions and perceptions as discipline happens differently in many homes 🏠.
I usually use myself as an example when topics like this comes up because as a young kid among five (5) other siblings, my father and mother never physically flogged me for a day. And I also remembered vividly how I never saw my parents flogging any of my siblings. This does not mean we were never scolded or talked to in a harsh tone as children because parenting is never an easy work and will never ever be. My father will always want to talk to us calmly, correcting us and us to understand the wrongs. And he will simply warn you not to do it again if you don’t want to see his anger. And my mom being a gentle woman 👩🏻 will shout at you and ignore you the whole day. And honestly , my siblings and I grew up to be among the best behaved children among our peers and even into adulthood.
I see bringing up children as one of the hardest thing parents go through, especially the mothers who mostly spend most of their time with the children. So I could say every parent has their own choosing method to discipline their wards and those who are yet to become parents are also learning or already having it in mind since it’s something that is inevitable unless for those who don’t want to ever have children 👧.
Physically flogging and spanking a child or children does not help them to grow into a better well behaved person, instead it toughens children overtime, changing the person they are supposed to become, making them to devolve the worst attitudes and have different perceptions to life. I believe the best way to discipline children is by giving them moral instructions, dialoguing with them and giving them time to change since every stage in a child’s life is a phase.
Physically flogging or spanking a child constantly, has left fear 😨 in many children, sone ends up developing post trauma (ptsd), others grew up into having aggressive personalities, bullying others because of what they feel from the past. Many others feel they are not loved 🥰 which always will make them hate their parents. I believe giving children time to change from any behavior by morally counseling them and with constant dialogue is one method that brings them closer to their parents, giving them also the encouragement to disclose and discuss things of boarder with their parents.
I feel children quickly realizes themselves on time if they see that their parents does not physically flog or spank them. Knowing that this does not mean their parents are the weak type, but feeling the need that they are only giving them the chance to grow in a better way and become someone with good reasonings. This is why you notice that some children are more calmer in classes, public gatherings and other places. While those who has been toughened by beating, flogging and spanking are the roughest because of how they believed that their parents can only flog or spank them.
So its always better to give and allow a child that space they need to think 💭 within themselves why are my parents not flogging me physically like the way they see other children being flogged. This method of disciplinary action can help them always be cautious of their behavior, watching their parents attitude to life and developing a mindset that can help them with better personality as tomorrow’s adults, especially in this era of 21st century where change is becoming so drastic.
This is my response to the #hiveleaners featured content for week 219, edition 01.
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