That is sort of ironic you bring that up as that perfectly describes what I had just experienced while writing a story that seems to be taking me forever to finish. I found myself using a concept that I had already discarded as a concept then I had to ask myself was I using the concept because everyone can relate to that concept or was the reality I did not want to appear selfish thinking of potential harm to myself when I knew the other person was already harmed in a much greater way. Was I taking a concept I eliminated because it was to hard for me to explain this may cause me a greater harm in the end, how do you explain to a dying person your own emotional vulnerabilities without seeming selfish even though you are fully aware but they may not understand or see that because they know you as someone who has always embodied strength, that I don't let people see my weaknesses.