I recently went through this a few weeks back. The owner of a web page whom I had had debates with prior before and was always promised if things were left as is there would be a time to come back later for more open discussion on it. Those times never arrived. Once I did stop following the page because threats of death is never acceptable from the beginning let alone any further discussion needed in the future. Several months later they changed the policy and I went back. He had asked me several times to be a moderator on the page, and finally I accepted his offer. When disputes of difference arose it always ended up we'll leave it like it always been for now then come back and discuss it later. Which was usually countered with nothing ever changes that way so best it be I just leave, there is never any compromise...but I always gave in. Then came the day where I did exactly what I did before.. I left because as you say, "If you threaten to quit and don't - you have shown your impotence. It is a little pathetic." ...and especially after someone publicly humiliates you by expanding upon the problem rather then compromising upon it. When you say to someone I trust and value your opinion you really don't when you decided to quash that trust. I know the person upon whom we were discussing his post is what he would also consider a valued poster but to not only let him violate the rules, rules that I myself were called out on occasionally to follow for years there, but expand upon it by adding to it showed he really didn't trust and value my opinion. I was willing to go fifty/fifty to save face between two valued posters but he decided in the end to totally quash my trust, judgement and opinion with another promise of discussing it later. That wasn't an option that time, that would have left me looking pathetic, a joke no one would take seriously again. I wrote him a email later that evening explaining why there's differences between agreeing on coming back later to discuss an issue isn't the same as accepting that someone violated trust and I hoped he could see why I couldn't move forward with that. People have to trust that you mean what you say.