Some describe joy as a feeling. Others talk about joy as something you can hold on to. For many people, joy is the result of some internal contemplation. While others find joy in an outward act of love from another person.

The word JOY, with only its three letters, is magnificently complex and meaningful!

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The Act Of Engagement

As a husband and father, I have found that one of the best ways I can spread joy is through genuine and meaningful engagement with my wife and kiddos.

A physically present husband and father is starkly different from an emotionally and mentally present one.

When I am engaged with my family ...

I connect with their eyes - I look deep into their souls and I show them that I am available.
I open my ears - I intentionally focus on their words, but more importantly, what they are trying to say. I value the act of communication.
I hold my tongue - There are times to provide words of wisdom, but often times, I need to speak less so that they can speak more.
I give them access to my physical being - this includes hugs, cuddles, taps on the shoulder, snuggles, and anything else that lets them know I am physically available.
I look out for them - I protect my family from imminent dangers. I guide them through challenges that are best learned from life experience. I give them free reign to make age-appropriate decisions, even if I might not agree with them.

My Role Is More Than A Money Maker

My wife and kiddos find more joy in me then they do in the money I bring home. They find more joy in our games nights than in extravagant gifts. They find more joy in knowing that our family is built on a strong foundation rather than flashy, fleeting moments no one care remember.

As a man, I struggle with wanting to provide the money and sometimes forget to be available in the moment. So every day I have a choice to make. And I choose joy!

Final Thoughts

Being engaged is more difficult than it sounds. Being available to other people requires sacrifice and a commitment to consistency. But I can think of no better way to spread some joy to the people that I care the most about.

How have you shared some joy this week?
Do you find it challenging to be authentically engaged in your relationships with others?
What steps do you want to take to make changes so that others feel joy?

Thanks for stopping by! I look forward to hearing from you.