Eric it would be irresponsible of me to make a recommendation for a specific firearm not knowing more. I can tell you though that you should find a responsible licensed firearms dealer that has a shooting range were you and your wife can to and shoot several different models and calibers so you can both feel comfortable with the gun decide to purchase.
Proper training is very important along with purchasing the right gun. So you should be able to take shooting lessons at that same gun range after you purchase the gun. Another important thing is to keep in practice, don't just buy it and go thru the learning process and then put the gun in the drawer by the bed. Make it a point to go to the gun range at least every other month and shoot a box of shells between the two of you.
I did enjoy the day and I even got a Dash written and posted, now if the poker site would would open back up I would love to play some poker. Hey, did I miss a recent fork on this block chain? Somewhere I thought , maybe a tweet, I saw something about fork taking place, Eclipse?
Believe it or not I am listening to tRump in Carson, NV right now on the internet at a rally. I'm glad I wrote and posted my Dash before his rally because quite a bit of what he's talking about I actually mentioned in my blog.
There have been a couple of brief few second interruptions and the screen showed "meta data processing'' so the NSA must be documenting my internet use and what I'm watching on my other computer.
I did break down and get another computer do some other things on but I'll continue to use this one for blogging. The other keyboard just isn't lined up right or something because I have a hard time spelling things correctly on it. His rally just ended and I am done too.
Take care and thanks for the continued support,
Sult