Maybe our answer is small-minded, cute, cute, adorable, or maybe you can be spoiled, whining and even a burden.
Well in this post I will share about two things ..!
basic understanding of children..!!
what needs to be prepared to be a parent later on..!!
First, let's discuss what you need to understand before becoming a parent.
Understanding that a child is an asset is not just a responsibility, since we consider them a responsibility, it will definitely feel like a very heavy burden, basically, it's a big story if an asset is an asset because it's an asset, it will definitely be taken care of, and be careful and we always motivated to proceed for better results.
Children are mino power they can't express what they want as parents we have the power to maintain and give them their rights, so it's really important to understand them so let's lower our ego first and try to understand them First, there will be a time how come they will understand us and sacrifice a lot of interests for the sake of not uniting us or our parents.
What are the crucial things that we don't need to prepare to become parents?
The need for clothing, food, shelter is indeed a primary need, but educating children to be good people, being human at least not harming others is not an easy matter.
We can read books right away, there are lots of tips on how to be parents but one thing we need to remember we can't apply to our children, not all of them are in accordance with the knowledge we profess, and we can't follow 100 percent of parenting other people to our children, including our parents' upbringing to us, because yes, the conditions are definitely different, take what is appropriate, throw away those that don't create our own ingredients, because there is no standard and sacred knowledge in educating children, so we shouldn't be too posed in educating our children, so we forget about ourselves because we have to develop and process with our children.
First we have to stop learning to stop our bad habits, whether it's smoking, harsh words, temper tantrums, and other bad habits that we don't want our children to imitate now because changing habits can't be in a day or overnight.
they will imitate what the people closest to them do, especially us as their parents.
So are we ready ..?
The second is to reflect on how our parents educated us, if for example we come from a hard family, please don't make our children a means of revenge for the parenting we got before.
Now, try to reflect on yourself whether this method can also be applied in today's life.
The third is how we will educate children with a partner.
Especially about the discipline and values that our brothers want to instill later, don't let there be miscommunication and gaps between us and our partners and tell us about our worries and what kind of support we need from a partner, so that later we can be strong and our partners can strengthen each other.
Fourth, focus on what we can control.
Maybe later we will feel that we have to give all this to our children, we have educated them properly, but we don't know what our children have experienced and got out there, for example when they play or go to school, we feel that this is enough. but why is the behavior still not good with us, maybe they got it from outside, but it's not possible for us to control it, so focus on the places we can control, make the house a place of control, as a place for them to be comfortable, and be themselves.
So, those are the important things that we have to prepare before we become parents, a lot of it is really complicated, believe me, the effort doesn't betray the results, all of our preparations and sacrifices will bear fruit later, and hopefully it will be useful for all of us.
So, those are some ways to educate children that are right, and thank you to all of you who have stopped by and read my post, and hopefully it will be useful for parents and for all of us, and if something goes wrong, you can comment below, see you in the next post. with a different topic, thank you.
