Our society, our culture has taught us that marriage is a paramount part of life and one must go through it. Since such thoughts have been incorporated in our minds from day 1, we all feel that marriage is a necessity and we can't live without it.
First of all, I don't agree with this thought. Marriage is not something that takes us along. Husband-Wife is not the only relationship that helps us survive. It's not even god gifted. It's something we do of our own will and might not even be successful all the time.
The next thing that our society has taught us is about staying in a bad marriage. When we marry someone, we have some hopes, some expectations. We enter into a relationship with a positive mindset and with a notion to live our life with that person forever. But when we decide on marrying someone, we don't get a lifetime to know them. It's just a couple of years, and for some of us, just a couple of months to decide if we can live our lives with them. What if after a few months of marriage we realize we weren't meant to be together? We don't feel the required compatibility?
A bad marriage is not only signified by fights or domestic violence. It is also greatly characterized by lack of companionship, failure to understand each other's emotions, not giving enough time, not being able to understand the partner's needs and wants, and not feeling the need to stay together.
With all these characteristics of marriage, should we still continue?
Our elders teach us that marriage is a pure relationship that once done cannot be undone. But what's the point of living in a failed marriage? Why do we wake up to a face every day that we don't really wish to see? Why should we share our room with someone we don't wish to sleep with? Why should we even breathe in an atmosphere which is claustrophobic?
I strongly condemn staying in a bad marriage. Relationships are assets and not liabilities. If one doesn't want to stay in it, they should not be forced. Divorce should not be cursed, it should rather be appreciated as a mature decision between 2 adults who want different things in life. Rather than staying in a relationship where breathing is a problem, one must stay alone in a free, productive aura.
Marriages are to love, to enjoy, to feel. If they don't give you that pleasure, they are just a pain which you definitely don't need to live with forever.
When your marriage becomes a meme, you should know what to do!
