People often times make the incorrect assumption of thinking that because the chemistry they have with someone is off the charts, it means they are compatible with that very person as well. First thing first, it’s important to take note that chemistry and compatibility are not one and the same. Being magnetically pulled toward someone and connecting on a certain level with them doesn’t make that person one that is compatible with us. Lust being the misleading bad boy that he is, you almost have to be charm proof to his seductive nature to not fall into the faulty things he’s trying to drill into your mind.
Because you see, lust masters the art of deception like nothing else does. He’ll make you think that what you feel is love, when really it’s nothing more than the high he feeds you with (until his limited supply runs its course). Unlike lust, compatibility is authentic in its nature. Contrary to popular belief, it is not differences per say that cause incompatibility – it is rather the incapacity to navigate around these differences that create an incompatibility.
In other words, incompatibility arises when there’s an impossibility to compromise without having it taking away the needs of one or both partners. In that sense, there is no common ground to be found without leaving the foundation of the partnership disturbed in a way that can’t be made up for.
For instance, two partners who have significantly different sex drives but who value engaging in many other forms of intimacy are not necessarily incompatible. However, if two partners have significantly different sex drives and one of them wants a sex-focused relationship, this might cause an incompatibility – as the respective desires of each person can’t possibly be respected without generating a climate of disharmony.
