Cheating seems to be so prevalent today that the question isn't who is cheating but rather – who isn't? Too many treat their most important relationships casually and their commitments as optional. Our microwave mentality has infiltrated our most sacred institution; MARRIAGE.
We even have a reality show called Cheaters that is designed to reveal an indiscretion and exploit the humiliation on national television. I'm not sure which is more devastating.
discovering your lover's unfaithfulness or discovering the crushing news at the same time as you watch a TV channel.
We live in a very sad day and age. I have seen first-hand the destruction of cheating. It devastates relationships and shatters dreams. If you have
entertained the idea of cheating on your spouse or significant other, let this serve as your official warning.
Your handsome boss, cute office secretary or sultry neighbor down the street comes with a price tag that you cannot afford. Before you cheat, here are things you really need to know. Its still your choice either to refrain from such thought or stop that illicit relationship if you're already into it.
You will become a liar
It's bad enough to bear the title of "Cheater,"
but if you cheat, you will also wear the hat of "Liar." Cheating cannot occur without deceit on some level and normally the white lies in the beginning become full-fledged lies at the end.
"I'm working late at the office tonight" may be
a half-truth but you'll need to redefine the word "working" to silence your compromised conscience. Cheating and lying go hand in hand.
You will get caught
It may not be today or tomorrow. But eventually, your affair will come to light one FATEFUL DAY. Your
world will come crashing down on you. If you are fortunate, the story of your indiscretion may avoid the evening news or the front page of your local paper, but your circle of friends will know your deeds.
And everyone likes to share juicy news.
You will disappoint everyone
Everyone. Your spouse( Ohh, that Lady you so much love or the man you promised to love and respect forever). Your friends. Your co -workers.
Your parents. Your nephew. Your children. Your pastors, God. Yourself.
Oh! What a shame! Can you bear it?
You will be a bad example
We're either a good example or a bad example in all things that we do.
Cheating is a not only a very bad example in relationships but brings with it a cloud of doubt that hovers over you in other areas of your life. If you cheated in one area, won't you cheat in another? Cheating communicates to everyone that you took the
easy road.
It tells others that you were willing to cut corners in your most primary relationship. It reveals that you were not willing to do the hard work
and get the help you needed. No one ever admires a cheater. Even if you did a lifetime of good, this one bad deed can erase it all. It shows you're too weak to control yourself.
You will lose your moral authority.
It's hard to tell your children (or others) to do the right thing when they know you didn't. Saying "Do as I say, not as I do" is the fastest way to lose the respect of others. Not only will you lose their respect, you'll lose yours and your dignity too.
Every moral judgment you make in the future will be weighed against your cheating action of the past. It doesn't mean you can't speak the truth in the future, it just means that few will listen to you.
You will create trust issues for your spouse Forever.
You will single-handedly damage the precious self-esteem of the one you promised to love for a life time. Every relationship they have after you will be one that they struggle to trust. If that were not enough, you will rock the world of children and cause them to question
the stability of every meaningful relationship they have. For children, their parents relationship is their anchor and cheating cuts the line.
