Women sometimes get a bad reputation for being hard to figure out, and it's true. We can be pretty confusing. But men can be just as confusing, if not more!
Next time you're wondering why your man isn't responding to your text or if that new guy you've been talking to actually likes you, remember that they have a lot going on in their minds too. Here are ten secrets you should know about men:
The “passion of the chasing” gets old.
“The older we get, the less time we’re willing to spend ‘chasing’ you. If I’m interested, and you’re interested, there should be no reason for you to still be playing hard to get and taking longer than two requests for your time to agree to a date. Either commit or tell me you’re not interested.”
Sometimes he wants you to jump His bones.
“If you want to have sex doesn’t wait for men to initiate. If a man always has to initiate into sex he will feel like you don’t want it and just do it because you make him feel good but don’t actually feel any pleasure yourself.”
Guys Don’t Read into Things Very Much
A lot of times, girls will get upset when they ask us our opinion on things that matter to them, and guys reply “I don’t know. Nothing!” You shouldn’t get too upset about that, ladies. Your men aren’t trying to hide anything from you. A lot of times, there really just isn’t anything on their mind at that particular moment. Try suggesting some ideas for them to think about instead of getting upset.
Guys Like to be Problem Solvers
We’ve all been there. Maybe you came home from a bad day at work and wanted to rant to your man about that horrible experience you had with your boss. He then tries to give you some advice that you didn’t ask for nor want. I know that can be frustrating on your part, and that you just needed someone to rant to. You didn’t ask to be given advice. Please do understand that it’s perfectly natural for guys to want to solve problems, particularly problems that concern their girls.
We are just as emotionally complex as women are.
“Men’s emotional lives are, pretty much across the board, just as complex and nuanced as women’s.
Also, there’s a whole ecosystem of subtle communication, competition, and one-upmanship between men (think Alpha/Beta but way more complicated) that is probably largely invisible to you.
We’ve had to navigate through it all our whole lives and sometimes it stinks.”
Feeling insecure
Just like women, men have insecurities too. They might not be as apparent, but they're still there.
Feel a lot of pressure in dating
Men are traditionally the ones who initiate dates and pursue the relationship, and there's a lot of pressure on them to make it work.
Men take time to read women mind
If he asks you what's wrong, he genuinely wants to know. He might not even know anything's wrong unless you tell him, so be completely open and honest with your feelings.
Compliments work with Men
Your man would really appreciate a compliment or two every once in a while. Everyone likes to feel good about themselves, so tell him when you think he looks awesome in his new jeans. I've thought about that moment and tried to just say "thank you" when someone compliments me. If a man gives you a compliment, he means it and he wants you to believe it.
Men act tough, but they want help
Men have a stigma around them that they have to know all the answers and do everything by themselves. This simply isn't the case. Everyone needs help sometimes, so don't be afraid to offer (even if he doesn't ask).
Men their secrets told out
If a man tells you something in confidentiality, he doesn't want you to tell anyone. It's a breach of trust when he tells you something, then you go tell your best friends. Keep their secrets a secret.
They want to make you happy
Your man wants nothing more than to make you happy and see you smile. He'll make mistakes along the way, but just remember he's trying.
Now that you know these ten secrets about men, you can better understand where they're coming from, and it can improve your relationships.
