https://pixabay.com/photos/brothers-boys-affection-kids-baby-457234/
https://onbeing.org/programs/alain-de-botton-the-true-hard-work-of-love-and-relationships/
Love is a skill - a good pointer to remind us to approach love as an ability to nurture and improve over time.
Love is at its most necessary when we are weak, when we feel incomplete, and we must show love to one another at those points.
love is a benevolent process whereby two people try to teach each other how to become the best versions of themselves.
The only conditions — as we know with children, the only conditions under which anyone learns are conditions of incredible sweetness, tenderness, patience — that’s how we learn.
We just need people to be able to explain their imperfections to us in good time, before they’ve hurt us too much with them, and with a certain degree of humility.
when we fall in love with another person, we magnify in our minds those things that are immediately enrapturing and craft our idea of the other person almost exclusively around those wonderful qualities, which is not fair to them or to us.
Sulking - an action we do towards people that are close to us. An indicator for open dialogue to better understand each other.
Our generosity towards children - can we do the same with our lover?
when we fall in love with another person, we magnify in our minds those things that are immediately enrapturing and craft our idea of the other person almost exclusively around those wonderful qualities, which is not fair to them or to us.
all of us; that all of us are deeply damaged people.
So often, we blame our lovers; we don’t blame our view of love. - easier to blame compared to putting effort on evaluating our own behaviour.
a certain heroic acceptance of loneliness seems to be one of the key ingredients to being able to form a good relationship.
Love is connection. And insofar as one is alive and one is in buoyant, relatively buoyant spirit some of the time, it’s because we are connected.
I think sometimes, the older I get, sometimes I think one of the nicest things you can do to someone that you really admire is leave them alone.
I found the article quite enlightening on a subject we assume we already are experts at from moment of birth, reminder it is a skill!!
