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Hola Hola
Comienzo por el comienzo y no sé cómo terminará esta historia.
César tiene semanas queriendo comer gomitas (dulces), yo le he comprado siempre que puedo, porque el niño se porta bien y para premiarlo le compro, sin embargo he sido muy alcahueta y le he comprado más de la cuenta, en vez de comprarle una semanal o cada dos semanas, le estaba comprando más veces.
No sé cuántas, pero si más veces de lo que se debe, es que a mí también me gusta comer dulce y me compro algo a mí y le compro algo a él. Cosa que debo dejar de hacer, pero se me olvida, ya que me he sentido algo mal y creo que es porque he engordado un poco pero ¿Quién está pendiente de eso?
Hoy fuimos a comer con mi papá, cuando César termina de comer, se paró a buscar un paquete de gomitas, cuando lo estoy llamando no viene, se fue y regresó con unas gomita, le digo que no quiero comprarle eso porque me parece que ya fue suficiente de chucherías, le dije que mejor era comer helado.
En eso va y busca otra chuchería pero por el precio le digo que no le voy a comprar eso y que mejor es un helado, compartimos los 3 y es sabroso. Él insiste que quiere las gomitas y se le compra las gomitas, incluso dijo que igual se la compramos aunque le habíamos dicho que no.
Mi papá, César y yo comenzamos a caminar por el centro comercial y mi papá me dice, vamos a comernos el helado y yo le digo que solo nosotros dos porque César ya eligió unas gomitas. Cuando mi papá viene con los dos helados, César se puso bravo que él quería helado.
Se le explicó que ya él había elegido las gomitas, comenzó a decir que él no quería las gomitas, que las botaran y que ya no las quería, que él quería helado. Mi papá al instante me capta lo que estoy tratando de hacer, pero yo toda calmada sin levantar la voz, le voy explicando a César que no puede cambiar su decisión.
Comenzó a golpearse la cara, le dije que no se la golpeara, todo el calma, le vuelvo a explicar varias veces el por qué no se le compró helado. César insiste que él merece helado y que le compre su helado.
Al terminar de comernos el helado, con la misma calma nos paramos y comenzamos a caminar, yo iba halando a César porque no quería que se quedara parado y dejara de caminar, venia caminando más lento que yo, pero a buen ritmo.
Llegó un momento que tuve que comenzarle a contar los números para que caminara tranquilo, a pesar de todo, iba caminando, cuando llegamos al carro, ya yo me estaba estresando, así que respiré y le abrí la puerta para que se montara.
Se montó en el carro, lo prendí y nos fuimos. Del centro comercial a la casa de mi papá son como 5 minutos, cuando llegamos a casa de mi papá ya César estaba relajado. Hablando y tranquilo. Comiendo sus gomitas.
Sin gritar ni golpear se puede corregir (debo meter eso en mi cerebro), se puede educar y enseñar. César aún no me da su opinión sobre lo sucedido, pero sé que en algún momento lo va a hacer, ya que sé que él entendió y sabe que para el próximo momento debe elegir lo que más quiera y no hacer lloriqueo por querer comer lo que los demás están comiendo cuando ya él eligió algo previamente.
César a donde vamos, tiene que pedir algo, eso es lo que voy a comenzar a trabajar ahora, que no se antoje de nada a menos que se me indique que puede comprar algo para él. Siempre le digo que no agarre nada, pero se me va al pasillo donde están las chucherías y viene con unas gomitas.
También le aumente la dificultad de las tareas en el hogar y personales, ahora tiene que aprender a ponerse las medias y los zapatos correctamente, e incluso amarrarse las trenzas, una tarea que debió aprender hace dos años y no he logrado que la aprenda.
César cumplió 8 años y ya con esa edad siento que puede dar más.
Hello Hello
I start at the beginning and I don't know how this story will end.
César has been wanting to eat gummies (sweets) for weeks, I have bought him whenever I can, because the child behaves well and to reward him I buy him, however I have been very pimp and I have bought him more than necessary, instead of buying him one weekly or every two weeks, I was buying from him more times.
I don't know how many, but if more times than it should be, it's because I also like to eat sweets and I buy something for myself and I buy something for him. Something that I should stop doing, but I forget, since I've been feeling a little bad and I think it's because I've put on a bit of weight, but who's aware of that?
Today we went to eat with my dad, when César finished eating, he stopped to look for a packet of gummies, when I'm calling him he doesn't come, he left and came back with some gummies, I tell him I don't want to buy him that because I think he already It was enough of sweets, I told him that it was better to eat ice cream.
That's when he goes and looks for another trinket but because of the price I tell him that I'm not going to buy him that and that an ice cream is better, we share the 3 of them and it's tasty. He insists that he wants the gummies and he buys the gummies, he even said that we would still buy it for him even though we had told him no.
My dad, César and I start walking through the mall and my dad tells me, let's eat the ice cream and I tell him that it's just the two of us because César already chose some gummies. When my dad comes with the two ice creams, César got angry that he wanted ice cream.
It was explained to him that he had already chosen the gummies, he began to say that he did not want the gummies, that they should be thrown away and that he no longer wanted them, that he wanted ice cream. My dad instantly understands what I'm trying to do, but I calm down without raising my voice, I explain to César that he can't change his decision.
He started to hit his face, I told him not to hit it, he calmed down, I explained to him several times why he didn't buy ice cream. César insists that he deserves ice cream and that I buy him his ice cream.
When we finished eating the ice cream, with the same calm we stopped and began to walk, I was pulling César because I didn't want him to stand still and stop walking, he was walking slower than me, but at a good pace.
There came a time when I had to start counting the numbers for him to walk calmly, despite everything, he was walking, when we got to the car, I was already getting stressed, so I breathed and opened the door for him to get in.
He got in the car, turned it on and we left. From the mall to my dad's house it's about 5 minutes, when we got to my dad's house César was already relaxed. Talking and calm. Eating their gummies.
Without yelling or hitting it can be corrected (I must put that in my brain), it can be educated and taught. César still hasn't given me his opinion about what happened, but I know that at some point he will, since I know that he understood and knows that for the next moment he must choose what he wants the most and not whine for wanting to eat what he wants. the others are eating when he has already chosen something previously.
César, where we are going, he has to ask for something, that is what I am going to start working on now, that he does not want anything unless he tells me that he can buy something for him. I always tell him not to take anything, but he goes to the corridor where the trinkets are and he comes with some gummies.
The difficulty of household and personal tasks also increased, now she has to learn to put on her socks and shoes correctly, and even tie her braids, a task she should have learned two years ago and I have not managed to get her to learn it.
César turned 8 years old and already at that age I feel that he can give more.
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