What a great read. The part where you say 'a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor' really got me thinking. Avoiding conflict or minor stress only leaves us defenseless against the future. However, regarding digging into the past, I think it is sometimes necessary to look back—not to 'live' in the trauma, but precisely to understand why we didn't develop those strategies at the time. As you rightly say, emotions are indicators; sometimes, looking at the locked-up baggage helps us decipher the indicator so we can surf the wave today. Thanks for sharing this perspective! This is my opinion on the matter.