i was thinking about how small assumptions just mess everything up without even trying. like it starts so tiny you dont even notice it.
yesterday i saw something like that again. not a big dramatic thing, just normal life stuff.
my friend texted me and i didnt reply for like maybe 2 hours or something. not even intentional. i was just busy scrolling, doing nothing important honestly, just distracted.
and then later i found out he thought i was ignoring him on purpose. like bro what.
but the thing is i kind of get it too. because when you dont know the full picture, your brain just fills the gap itself. and usually it fills it wrong.
he assumed i was mad at him. i assumed he would know im just busy. and both of us were wrong in our own quiet way.
not sure why i thought that, but it reminded me how often this happens in everything, not just chats or messages.
like in real life too. you see someone laughing in a group and you think oh they are talking about me maybe. or someone replies short and you think they are upset. but maybe they are just tired or hungry or just not in the mood for long replies.
simple stuff.
but your mind doesnt like simple. it likes stories. it creates reasons even when there are none.
i remember one time in class, the teacher called my name and i didnt respond fast enough because i was looking down at my notebook. and some guy behind me whispered like oh he is acting like he didnt hear on purpose.
i literally didnt even hear properly first time. but that whisper changed how a few people looked at me for like the whole day. small assumption just sitting there growing without anyone checking it.
anyway.
its weird how fast it spreads too. like one person thinks something, then tells another person in a slightly different way, and by the end it becomes a completely different story. like broken telephone but in real life and people actually believe the final version.
dont know if that makes sense, but it happens all the time.
even at home sometimes small things like if you dont answer a question properly or you say something in a flat tone suddenly it becomes you are angry or disrespectful. when you are just normal, maybe just thinking about something else like what to eat or some random thing.
and then you spend more time fixing the misunderstanding than the original moment itself. that part is annoying honestly.
because the original thing was nothing. but now it becomes something you have to explain and defend.
and sometimes you dont even feel like explaining because its too small to care but also too big now to ignore.
i guess assumptions are like that silent thing nobody notices when it starts. and then suddenly its everywhere.
i also think about how we assume things about people we dont even know properly. like you see someone online or in real life and you decide their whole personality from like one sentence or one expression. like oh this guy is rude or this girl is nice or whatever.
but we dont even know the context.
its kind of funny and kind of dumb at the same time.
i do it too not gonna lie. everyone does. we just dont say it out loud.
anyway.
coming back to that friend thing.
later we just laughed it off, but it stayed in my head for some reason. like how close we were to just misunderstanding each other for no real reason at all. just timing and silence and assumptions stacking up.
