First of all, please accept my condolence for the passing of your dad.

I must confess, I admire your mindset about parenthood. Over here in Africa, parents see their children as their investments and always want to make every decisions of our lives (I CALL THIS LIVING A SECOND LIFE THROUGH YOUR CHILDREN).
Most African children desire to explore and question life more, but the fear of how our parents feel, probably the curses they could lay on us for not obeying their wills make most African children live almost same lives their parents lived. This is pathetic, but the live we face as African children.