Good reflections. I need to qualify this part though:

As an example John Doe does a post and 10 people give it upvotes and one person who has more HP than the 10 before doesnt like it they down vote it an cancels out the value the other 10 people got out of the post. That is not a fair thing to the creator of the post or to the people who voted on it. 1 person's perception of value on a creators work should not cancel out someone elses. This is a major thing for new users to understand and is a big reason of why they leave so fast and no one wants to hear it or even address it. It's just mentioned to new users now and then in a non challant way. "Make sure your post aligns with the community". They think about the community they are posting in. But we are actually saying is "make sure you tow the line."

You make it sound as this is communist China or something. In fact, "tow the line" translates merely as "be a decent human being". It shouldn't be that difficult. And if someone finds it difficult, then perhaps it's better that someone leaves.