Marriage is a very serious matter, and if there are children during the marriage, the situation is even more serious.
Marriage is a commitment that lasts a lifetime. You have to accept that it also takes a bit of luck. It's not easy to really get to know your partner while you're just dating. Life is very different when you have to live with someone else.

People are pressured to get married and start a family soon, and that's a mistake. You have to prepare well before agreeing to marriage, both financially and psychologically.

If we carry a trauma or complex, it's inevitable that the couple will also carry their own trauma, and difficult times will arise.