I agree and disagree. It's your responsibility to change yourself, absolutely. However, that doesn't mean you can't get help. Sometimes helping yourself requires admitting that you others can help you and you are not alone in your problems. Seeking help is difficult, but it is often the first step to change. If you keep saying your going to do it all on your own and you don't need help from others that's one way of guarding yourself from what others can offer you. We all all in this together, don't ever think you are alone with your problems.