A very heart-felt post! Sorry about your troubles with the divorce, surprisingly family law differs from state to state. Washington State is much friendlier to men it seems, speaking from my own experience and my second wife's experience who ended up paying for all her ex-husbands lawyer expenses and he got their family residence, alimony from her, plus half of all other assets and a very friendly visitation schedule... She was a main bread winner in that marriage though...