If you don't score good marks, next time you will be beaten, you heard, if you don't score well, you will be beaten, this is what a school teacher said on last Saturday by holding the ear of a child, where there were other parents along with the rest of the children in the classroom.
It was a parent-teacher meeting, which schools usually hold after any exam. When there was an interaction between me and the teacher, I told him that you cannot beat children, and could you please think about alternative ways of dealing with children. He immediately replied in his defense that we will not say anything to your child. My point was not only about my child, but he repeatedly was saying we will not even touch your child. Many other things happened, but after coming home, one of my reflections was that what is the responsibility of a school, what is the responsibility of the teacher, what is the responsibility of the parents and what is the responsibility of the children in all this. Teacher blames parents, school blames teacher and parents, meanwhile what is the child feeling and how is he or she managing after so much humiliation. No one is talking to the child as to what he or she understands.
The harsh reality is that why no one takes corporal punishment so seriously. What alternative solution do you have as an adult, neither the school has the answer nor the parents have the answer. The easiest solution is to make the child agree to his point of view by threatening him. It is a matter to be understood that what future you are creating for the children.
Can elders share any such incident from their childhood where they got beaten up and today, they are thankful to their elders for that? How can a person become good from bad experiences, and if some child is overcome from those challenges, is only that child's own hard work, even after such bad experiences. Elders will be requested that please do not take credit for the fact that children have learned something from the bad experiences given by you and move forward in life. I remember once I was conducting safeguarding training with the 45 schools Principal and most of them have said that children are succeed under her treatment as she used to punish them, they became Bollywood celebrities now. As per my personal experience one of the teachers beaten me on road front of everyone and still, I remember how humiliated it was. Whenever I go to visit my childhood school, this is the first thing which comes in my mind. This bad experience never lifted my life, but how my mother supported that time in whole situation have healed me. Does your children have same support how my mother used to be in childhood? Or you are some kinds of parents who asked teacher to punish your children and give teachers that extra confidence towards corporal punishment.
What is your experience?
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Half of the content is translated from Google translation and some of it I just wrote direct. Please write back if some of it is not understandable due to my English language.
