The harsh truth is that a lot of the people that you think care about you do not really care, they are just appearing like they do. Some others will only wish that you remain where you are, but even if you will make progress, not up to them. This is why you have to learn to mind your own lane and work more in silence. Trust me, what they do not know, it will be almost impossible for them to ruin. Let them see the results by themselves, not you going around to announce every step that you want to do. Remember that it is your opinion that will ultimately count in your success race, so focus on it.
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A friend once shared something with me - a personal experience he had. He used to work for someone as a laundry man. He was so dedicated with work that everyone liked him. In the course of discharging his duty, he met a customer who liked him; or at least he thought that. He would give him some tips each time he brought clothes to be washed. He got close to him and would tell him everything; his challenges and all of them. He would sympathise with him and gave him some more tips. Then it got to a point when he told him that he has been able to save up some money from his salary and from the tips he normally got from customers.
He told him that he is planning to open up his own laundry centre. He already told his boss and he agreed and even gave him his blessings. But as soon as he told this man, his countenance changed. The man he thought was his friend stopped giving him any tip. In fact, even when he opened his own laundry place and was already doing well, that his friend did not patronise him. He realized that all these while, he was happy with the way he was serving under someone and he was also happy with his financial challenges. He did not want him to make a rise in life, so that he will be dependent on their tips for survival. This is when he knew that not everyone you call friend want the best for you.
The truth is that if you think everyone who laughs with you wants good for you, then you are already thinking amiss. There are people who are happy with the way your life is facing challenges and they will be parading themselves as your helper, whereas they are the one limiting you. Sadly as it may sound, there are people who you will share your plans and dreams with, and that will be the end of it. You have to learn to keep your secrets secret until they have matured. Like I normally say, some dreams are better allowed to share themselves when they have been fulfilled instead of you sharing them prematurely and may risk them.
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The world is already full of cruel people that are out to truncate other people's ideas. So do not enable them by playing into their hands. Sometimes, you just need to leave them to guess wrongly while you will be busy incubating your ideas. You have to know that a lot of people, why it looks like they care, are just to get information from you, which they will either use against you or to know your next line of actions. Try to keep your plans to yourself except when the person you are sharing them with will help you realise them. A friend once said that "if you are to see what people have in their mind against you, you will be really scared."
It is worthy to note that when you are busy minding your own dreams, you will not even have time to disclose unnecessary details to others. More so, try to limit what you say. Just like it is popularly said "wisdom is in silence." Know when to talk and what to talk. Also know when to be silent and focus on what you are doing. Always have in mind that the small detail you give to someone today may open them up to something that they can use against you tomorrow. So keep your discussions to what is necessary at every given time.
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