What helps a lot is to realize that everything is not happening to you. Things happen and you react to them If you win the lottery and think it happened to you, you think how lucky you are and you feel great. If you lose your wallet, you think about what bad luck you have and feel bad. Those things just happen despite who you are.
In each situation it is up to you to respond. The less time you spend wishing what happened didn't happen, or worrying about what will happen next, the more chill your responses become. Winning the lottery and losing your wallet are both serious events. Take each seriously and respond to what happened.
Developing a compassionate attitude toward ourselves can help us to build habits that protect us from negative thought habits. A compassionate attitude carn silence our internal critics. When we practice compassionate thinking, those thoughts that cut us down and make us feel bad, no longer make sense. Our sense of compassion can patrol our stream of thought like a lifeguard, alert for unkind thoughts.
When our basic attitude is compassionate, thoughts that undermine our happiness stand out like a drowning swimmer waving their arms and bugging their eyes. Compassionately we pluck those thoughts from the water, knowing they are not true.
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