It is good to be social but not everyone know how to be social.. It really do take alot of mental work to be able to be someone who is social.. It is a gradual process and it will not happen overnight...
Trying to be social means you want to enrich your personality and become more sociable..
These are some steps which you can take if you want to become social..
1...Take little steps..
We cannot get social overnight so you need to go through the process step by step.., a person who wants to be more social will really need to have the right understanding and learn how he or she can be able to expand their comfort zone.. .
If you want to be social, you need to learn how to avoid doing things alone, learn to communicate with other people and engage in activities together..
Find a way to visit places where there will be alor of individuals that you can interact with, this might be uncomfortable for you but it will help you to be able to become more social and be able to avoid shyness.
Ability to interact with people that you are not very familiar with will even increase your chances of becoming more social..
2..Passionate listener.
A social person will be willing to interact with others and have conversations with them, a social person will be willing to welcome ideas and listen to ideas too.. a social person will be willing to listen to opinions of others and whatever they have to say..
If you want to be a social person , you must be willing to be a great listener who listens more and talk less...being social does not mean you must always do the talking, infact a social person should be more willing to listen to conversations from others than talking...so you have to be a great listener if you want to be more social..
3...Avoid silence..
A social person should be willing to offer solutions or opinions to situations and problems , a social person should be able to socialize and add value to the lives of others, you cannot continue to remain silent in many situations and expect to be more sociable...
For you to become more social then you need to avoid silence, you need to be able to speak up consistently, you should be able to express yourself without keeping silent about your thoughts and feelings..
No one will bite you for expressing your thoughts and your feelings, so learn to be honest with yourself and be open-minded , learn to freely express yourself to others and be able to feel free to give your opinions and advices on any situation..
4..Do not stick to the status quo...
I know alot of people tend to have a particular routine that they use in their lives daily, well to become more social you need to try and make changes on your routine consistently, you need to avoid sticking to the usual routine all the time , you need to change it consistently so that you can always adapt to any kind of situation without feeling awkward..
