If you are nice and so kind to other people , it is a beautiful thing to do because is is truly a trait that is really valuable and very wonderful but it should be done because we want to do it and not because we are trying to please and impress others..
A lot of people tend to do some certain things just to please other people and to avoid any kind of upset between them and the person in question..
You should not be doing things only because you want to please others, it is a mentality that is not going to help you sooner or later , it will only begin to make you get drained emotionally especially when you have to do some things unwillingly because you are trying to please someone else..
When you are focusing your energy on pleasing others, it will make you to ignore your own happiness and you will be more concerned about the happiness of others above your own happiness , it is Good if you want to see others happy but that should not stop your own happiness too , when pleasing people is disturbing your happiness then you need to have a rethink , your happiness should come first before any other thing , when trying to please people all the time it will make you to begin to have some feelings that can cause low self-esteem for you and make you become overwhelmed with too much expectations from others most especially from the same people you trying to please..
You need to be so true to yourself and stop putting so much of unnecessary stress on yourself because you are really trying to please other individuals or even impress them., you have to avoid doing things because you are trying to be in the good book of a person or some people , instead of spending your energy on trying to please people , you should channel the energy on doing things that will make you happy.
At some point in our lives, we need to greatly Learn how to be able to say "NO" and be able to stand by it anytime anyday...
You cannot continue to be afraid to say NO to things that you are not cool with , you should be able to say NO to whatever you do not support or whatever you do not like or whatever you do not want.
Those that are known to always want to please others keep doing that because they do not set boundaries in their lives., setting boundaries in your life will make it possible for you to handle your emotions and actions and be able to avoid trying to pleasing people in a way that will hurt you.
You have to also stop giving different excuses concerning why you are trying to please others even when it is causing problem to you , you have to take a firm hold of your life and be intentional in whatever decisions you are making, you should stop trying so hard to please people , your happiness is more important than trying to please people who might even still not appreciate your efforts in the future..
