I hear you and I have heard all kinds of experience from People on downvote, my own is that I have 2 downvotes on most of my posts and its ones with The 10% and I see it and like...sux but not unexpected... So NO biggy.
Only once I got a downvote from @ocdb that really hit Hard but they did leave a comment and it was cause I used tipu on my post, not much but still. So I apolagized and I heard them so after that I haven't used anything again on my posts. I have no problem with downvotes and most of them answer if you ask about a downvote so most are good People.
Then ofcourse there are those that use their downvote to hurt People and say they do it for a reason but you see they downvote someone Who never done any of those reasons.
Also uses all The bots they downvote others for using... THAT I have a problem with.
And once a newbie got downvoted on her introduction post and it was her welcome to this place... She felt sad and not very welcoming but after some interacton and commenting he apolagized to her and took back the downvote.
Communication and engagement is the key.
Together we CAN make this place a true home!