Sometimes the feelings are so strong that an adult can barely cope. What to say about a child who has not yet learned to control himself well! A small person who is angry can harm others as well as himself. Therefore, many parents would prefer children to do it without anger.
It is necessary to understand that one can not simply get rid of an emotion, no matter how much we want it. It is necessary to teach the child to control the feelings, and not to avoid them.
Children react differently to the circumstances of life depending on temperament and character. Prepare so your child can experience stronger emotions than others or yourself.
Learn not to suppress anger, but express it in a normative way.
Talking helps the child deal with emotions and parents help them.
Sometimes children can not calm down so easily, but the next time they are in a similar situation instead of the usual curses and shouts, they may say, "I am terribly angry now! I need to calm down!
Many parents ask when to begin to pronounce emotions and teach methods of sedation during fits of anger. The answer: the sooner the better. The earlier you learn to pronounce the baby's feelings, the easier it will be for you and the baby to get used to it.
Generally at the age of two the age of protest begins. The little man explores the rules of this world and often gets angry if something happens differently than he imagined. At this age, it becomes especially relevant when pronouncing the senses.
While you have to help the baby: take him to a quiet place, show how he breathes deeply and slowly, offering to cry or hug.
Help a child deal with anger and express anger in a normative way.
Shows facial expressions, postures, gestures that you feel angry. Do this exercise at home: frown, clench your fists, think about what people do when they are angry. It will be useful for children to see how the emotion of anger looks in pictures or photos.
Go to a quiet place where no one interferes with calm.
Talk to your mother or another important adult about your feelings.
Cry
Physically manifest anger: walk, jump, even run. For some children, it helps to throw away the negative.
Breathe deeply Do this exercise at home, try to breathe deeply and slowly. Explain that this is the way to breathe during a fit of anger to calm down. Older children can learn to lengthen exhalation: relax and calm down even more.
Sit, hugging with mom or another adult. Physical contact relaxes and calms.
Do what you like best: draw (drawings have a wonderful therapeutic effect, but not all children can and love to draw at those times), listen to music, sing.
Pay attention to what exactly your baby likes and reassures, and suggest doing it at a critical moment, but never insist.
Children often adopt the style of angry relatives.
Pay attention to how you deal with anger. If you scream and can attack in a fit of rage, you can hardly expect any other behavior from the child.
It is better to express your emotions, the cause of the occurrence and the method you chose to face them. For example: "You painted the entire floor with paintings, although I asked to paint on the table! I am terribly angry! Let me give you a rag and go to my room to calm down, while now you clean the floor. "
Or so: "I'm angry all day because I feel bad! I'm going to have some tea and rest, please do not bother me for a while."
It can be funny to listen to three-year-olds: "I'm mad because you bit my cookies! I go to my room and go out until I calm down! "However, this ability to express and control feelings promises a wonderful future, because empathy is one of the most important qualities of the modern world.
