honestly, I feel like this is a fine example of one of those little things I'm missing without a good woman in my life. lol.

i was already half-feeling that throughout the rage - no one to properly share with. but i forgot about the wise feedback half.

like, I used to often (unfairly) think wifey was 'hypersensitive' to microaggressions & subtle signs of disrespect - cuz frankly, I was oblivious. but its become alot clearer since: you ladies just seem to have a higher intelligence when it comes to that/this kind of stuff.

and yeah, there are surely some guys who get this to a far greater degree than myself - or maybe I'm just slow & dumb on this one, perhaps too naive & inexperienced, giving people benefit of doubt because I can't personally relate to or understand how some could be operate like that without such basic common sense & decency. but i feel that - as embodied here in the way you put - women in general are just way more attuned to these layers of social dynamics.

and yeah... as stubbornly independent as my ego would like to be, I gotta admit this input of yours is a good reminder of having taken that kind of wise counsel for granted while I had it.